My whole short working life I see people dreaming of retirement, hoping and wishing for the weekends. They get blinding drunk to make stories of enjoyment that they can laugh about at other times when they get drunk.
Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy a single malt and a beer every now and then. I drink champagne to celebrate, and get the whole social concept of drinking with friends. However, I never get drunk. I had a couple of bad experiences when I was younger that means I always side on restraint and caution.
So when I see people unhappy with their lives, day after day doing a job they hate, only to live for the 2 days you get away from it, it doesn’t seem right to me…
The ultimate aim is to get to retirement to be able to have enough money and resources to do whatever you want in life, within reason.
Now I am not retired properly, but I got to sample what this would be like for a month. It’s not all its cracked up to be! I got to try retirement for a month. I won’t go into the detail about why this happened but if you work in business, you will know what I mean.
So I did what anyone would do. I spent a lot of time playing golf, going to the gym, catching up on the to do list and chilling out. After 2 weeks of doing this, I was bored and wanted a challenge. Now this could be because I have only been working for 7 years, or it could be that I am cut from the same cloth as my Granddad and Dad.
I can never go on a holiday where you sit on the beach and do nothing. I have to travel and see things because the minute I stop, I feel like I need to work on something.
My Granddad was different. He worked 20 hours a day because he had no education but knew that if he put in enough hours his family would have food on the table. This was passed onto my Dad who self funded his education later in life and worked just as hard. They both worked because they needed to.
In business, there is always someone trying to step on you to achieve, everyone in my family has experienced this, and I wish it didn’t exist, but the fact is, it does. But if you keep battling, in the long run you will come out on top. The reason for this is because hard work is the most underrated attribute we have. If you shoot a basketball 1,000 times, when you have finished, you are better at shooting a basketball than when you started.
The truth is, I think I am addicted to this feeling of growth. Some people say they chase a feeling their whole life, like the feeling you get when you retire, the ultimate goal for the ultimate feeling. The thing is, I am addicted to the feeling of achieving a goal. This means I have to always find new goals and that the truth is I love the process and the work.
This is exactly what Gary Vaynerchuk says, and is the secret to success. It doesn’t mean that you can’t spend time with family and friends, or even relax and enjoy life. The best way to deal with it, is to keep working hard and set a goal that is almost impossible. Then you need to keep working towards it with the knowledge that you may never get there. But you will enjoy every second along the way.
Gary is a multi-millionaire right now but needs to be a multi-billionaire to buy the New York Jets. The day he buys them, (and he will), will be the happiest and saddest day of his life. Until you get into this mindset, you will never be successful.